And the hits just keep on coming....

Yah... at some point (given that he isn't exactly cashed up as far as I
know) he may well run out of money (or the inclination to spend what he
does have on this).

Not a very satisfactory outcome... and not quick, but it may be one option.


G-S

 

My daughter, who's a neighbor of Dale, works for a local law firm that
specialises in family law matters. I spoke to her before about this.
Dale's case is "hopeful", according to her. However, he needs to lodge
documents with the family court NOW. I've emailed a link with a list of
law firms in Launceston that deal in family law. Hopefully, he can get
some joy from this.

Over on Netrider, they've started a fighting fund. If nothing else, if
the other guy has to fight it, then he will have to put up the dough for
a lawyer, and possibly a barrister. If we can get Dale through this with
a minimum of cost and the other guy's out of pocket big time at the end,
he may realise this and drop the case.

But as I don't know the guy, I'm only surmising this.

You know, people can be real pricks. And to use a 7 yo boy who's just
lost his mother as some sort of emotional weapon is probably the lowest
of the low.

 

I just think it's seriously messed up that that Will isn't being allowed to go to his mother's funeral.

I too cant believe that. That would have to be the lowest form of
human being not to allow a child to go to his mothers funeral - bad
blood or not.

 

Dale

Both you and Cat was instrumental in my custody battle a few years back,
both with advise, sworn affidavits and welcoming me into your home in my
time of need.

Anything you need in this matter, whether is just someone to talk to or a
4x2 to the back of certain person's head please let me know.

You are Will's Dad... no dickhead or court decision will ever change that

both Sasha and I are there for you, as are all here

mh

 

Whats this world coming to, I have agreed once with Nev AND Theo in 12
mths.

Im going thru this shit myself at the moment....

 

I've changed my mind. There's always hope.

Theo

 

Yea not knowing any of the participants, i find it hard that it could
even be considered distressing. It would be more distressing NOT to
go...

1000's of kids go to other kids, mums and dads, grandparents funerals
every year without issue.

Are they all in the same state?

 

thats ok, Ive agreed with Paulh in the Cat thread...

 

Here's hoping it goes in your favour Dale, One thing you must never
forget, The other guy may be his Father, But your his Dad. And I'm sure
Will knows who his Dad is. >

Aido.

 

Well stated Tim, and if you act as sensibly as you write here, you will
make sure nobody upsets the bio father. Sounds like he's acting on
hate not love. He may not really want the youngster, and eventually
show that by treating the lad as he has up until now, leaving him out
of his real life, to EXIST with his mother's relatives allways remembering
his life with his real "Dad" Dale. I speak from experience having had
this happen to me at a similar age. You all need to back off and let
the family of poor Cat deal with the "going to the funeral thing."
There must be someone who could approach them without agro, to
explain how important it is to allow the youngster to attend his
beloved Mum's funeral. It's a very sad time of course, and at such
times folk are prone to say and do things they might not do normally.

Play it cool please all of you. You are making things happen that will
be in that youngster's memory for the rest of his life. Try to make
these things be as less traumatic as possible for him. You are all good
friends and obviously want the best for Dale and his son, so please
act with extreme care. It's a very unhappy time for all of you but
you must not let YOUR emotions affect this youngster's memories of his
Mum's death. Try to have his Mum's family understand the importance
of him attending the funeral, but don't try to ram it down their throats.
That will not work.

The youngster will eventually seek Dale out and undoubtedly want to
resume their close relationship. Dale needs to act sensibly and with
regard for his son and his beloved Cat, try to keep things as calm
as possible, even though it must be an extremely distressing time for
him. Best of luck.

 

Well seeing as you've got an ATM....