Some thick **** who has only ever eaten cheese? No chance? Nugget. -- Nige, 'That's not my name' Range Rover Td6 Vogue BMW K1200S Suzuki GSX-R1000 K3 Focus ST3
Hang on, it's not 'veggie dave' is it? -- Nige, 'That's not my name' Range Rover Td6 Vogue BMW K1200S Suzuki GSX-R1000 K3 Focus ST3
Why would it be me? -- Veggie Dave http://www.iq18films.co.uk "To assert that the earth revolves around the sun is as erroneous as to claim that Jesus was not born of a virgin." Cardinal Bellarmine
Oh? I only saw a couple of mins of it. Why were they trying to force him to eat chicken then? -- Veggie Dave http://www.iq18films.co.uk "To assert that the earth revolves around the sun is as erroneous as to claim that Jesus was not born of a virgin." Cardinal Bellarmine
Odd, yes. Unreal, no. You've obviously been lucky in not having to deal with a family member with food 'issues'. My youngest (aged 9) is becoming increasingly difficult to cater for and has real problems with chewing and swallowing most food - it's not a physical problem as he can eat certain favoured foodstuffs with no problem at all. It also seems to be beyond the normal faddyness that one expects from kids of a certain age. My eldest has been through all sorts of liking something one week and then not the next phases, but now eats pretty much anything and everything put in front of him (1 & 2). Having seen the programme last night it has heightened my awareness as a parent of the potential problems that we could face if we approach this problem in the wrong way (which I suspect we may have been). The difficulty is though how do we approach it in a way that isn't pandering to fussyness but is sympathetic to what seems to be a worsening mental attitude towards eating ... damned if I know, I just don't want mealtimes to become a battleground and I want to ensure that he's getting at least three decent meals a week (rest of the week he eats at his dad's and is fed mainly soft, bland, pre-prepared food). 1) Except courgettes, aubergines and roasted or grilled tomatoes 2) Home cooked food from proper ingredients on the whole -- Elly - A Green Infrastructure Pixie ZX9R-E1 - <Giggles> Spike - FZ400 - It's dead Jim! MRO#32 ibW#25 BoTAFOT#46 BoTAFOF #46 GP#1 UKRMRM#00 TWA#3 DFV#15 http://www.garagepixies.co.uk elly at garagepixies dot co dot uk
what's wrong with the (aeons-long) tried-and-tested method of putting the food in front of them, and if they don't eat it, they go hungry?
TBF he does have to deal with his goldfish-like attention span for material stuff, notably motorcycles. -- TD 1991 VFR400R NC30 (black and red) 2001 ZX-9R (red and black) 1999 M5 (neither black nor red) Missing: SOB, Unreliable Italian exotica, Lardy tourer
I've have been considering that but I'm not sure it would work in this instance as it appears to be more than a case of just being a fussy eater, in which case I'd not hesitate to do it (we did it successfully with the eldest when he went through a fussy stage). He's a funny little bugger when all is said and done and I think there may be deeper issues troubling him. I'm prepared to accept that perhaps I'm reading more into it than there is, but I'm also cautious about getting it horribly wrong. -- Elly - A Green Infrastructure Pixie ZX9R-E1 - <Giggles> Spike - FZ400 - It's dead Jim! MRO#32 ibW#25 BoTAFOT#46 BoTAFOF #46 GP#1 UKRMRM#00 TWA#3 DFV#15 http://www.garagepixies.co.uk elly at garagepixies dot co dot uk
I think you're right not to dismiss the possibility of there being other things behind it - possibly not even food related, such as bullying at school, worried about getting tubby, wanting to make a point between your food and his dad's- or even you and his dad. In the short term I doubt he'll come to much harm, so in your shoes I'd be doing the same as you - playing a straight bat, trying to keep a dialogue going (be in only on grunts!) and see what develops. I'd also err on the side of too light a touch rather than too heavy a hand, IYSWIM [1]. You can always seek professional help if there comes a point when you feel you need to do more. [1] i.e. not, to, as you say, let mealtimes become a battleground.
well, he's having to live at least part of his life with you and Pip, so "deeper issues" go with the territory.
I'm not quite sure how to take that Seriously though, I do think that parenting issues/differences between us and his father's new family may, in part, be responsible ... certainly for some aspects of his behaviour. However, as there is little in the way of constructive dialogue between his father's new family and us (not for want of us trying believe me), it is proving very difficult to provide consistent parenting across the two families (and we have very different approaches to parenting). We shall just continue to try to do our best for him and hope that we can avoid adding to his problems. His eldest brother seems to have come out of it all rather well, certainly since he came to live with us. He's gone from being a complete handful to a very pleasant and confident lad who is an absolute pleasure to be around (mostly - he still has off days like the rest of us). -- Elly - A Green Infrastructure Pixie ZX9R-E1 - <Giggles> Spike - FZ400 - It's dead Jim! MRO#32 ibW#25 BoTAFOT#46 BoTAFOF #46 GP#1 UKRMRM#00 TWA#3 DFV#15 http://www.garagepixies.co.uk elly at garagepixies dot co dot uk
There's absolutely nothing wrong with your No.1 son, he's a credit to the way he's been brought up since he moved in with you and Pip. I'd rather 10 of him than 1 averagely brought up kid of his age to deal with.
What did you say? -- TD 1991 VFR400R NC30 (black and red) 2001 ZX-9R (red and black) 1999 M5 (neither black nor red) Missing: SOB, Unreliable Italian exotica, Lardy tourer
Mate of mine from school eats a French stick, cut in half and buttered, thick slices of cheddar and salt. Morning. Noon. Night. He hasn't touched a piece of fruit for around six or seven years. He came to visit, and we made a nice chicory, apple and Roquefort salad What did he do? He cut a baguette in half, buttered it and then placed slices of emmental on it, before salting the thing, and munching that with the salad. D.
Turns out the 'Porridge in a drawer' Aberdonian student is an UL, but check out 3/4 way down the page (Reuters) where something similar to your mate happened. http://www.snopes.com/college/horrors/scurvy.asp Anyway, the porridge in a drawer habit has a long and honourable tradition for teuchters and other sheep shaggers... http://eatscotland.visitscotland.com/food-drink/scottish-food/cereals/oats-porridge.html http://www.rampantscotland.com/recipes/blrecipe_porridge.htm -- Dave GS850x2 XS650 SE6a "It's a moron working with power tools. How much more suspenseful can you get?" - House
